Progress is the most over-looked, essential need for good mental health. In many ways it’s the key to a healthy, happy life but yet it never seems to be a part of any organized healthy lifestyle routine the way diet is. Our brains need to feel that we are moving forward, learning and exploring. Unfortunately, it can be very hard to find progress in the things that matter but fortunately it doesn’t take much to satisfy that part of our brains. Progress is anything that moves us forward, shows a measurable progression and produces something that is learned. We have inside of us the need to have value and our self-value is perceived by achieving things.
I believe much of our self-medicating and violence, especially among youths is caused by a lack of genuine progress in our lives. I believe we feel only two stages, moving forward or moving backward. Staying stagnant is felt as moving backward. The correct way to have progress is to, explore, learn, fail and succeed with activities that interest us. This though is not always an option and so we must find it in other ways that although they may not be as healthy, they can get us out of a “progress slump.” I think the success of binge-watching TV shows is because we can “progress” along in the series, at our own pace, in a sense, taking control. I have seen video games successfully help people with “progress-deficiency.” When you play a video game, you can work through one level and then quit that session so at the end of the day you feel there was at least one thing that was challenging that you made progress on. The following day you can work on in your mind the strategies for the next gaming session. I think the number one reason video gaming is so popular is because it satisfies our need for progress. In fact, if you ask gamers what the most important aspect of a video game is, they will tell you gameplay. They want to feel their achievements are real and gained from their skills. Game graphics are not as important. Video game developers know more than anyone the importance of progress and achievements. Most video games now offer the player trophies, badges, metals as well as “achievements’ that even sometimes have a monetary value.
It really doesn’t take much to add something to our lives that satisfy our need for progress. Many people do it with hobbies. Some do it by reviewing things on YouTube or playing card games on their phone or simple collecting. It should come from more meaningful sources such as our job, but when it doesn’t, we absolutely must introduce it into our lives in some other form.
When you feel that something is missing in your life that you can’t put a finger on, the lack of progress in your life may be it. You can do something about it.