Hate is not the opposite of love. Hate is anger. Hate is loss of control. Hate is surrender or the possibility of surrendering. Hate is identity misunderstood. Hate is vulnerability exposed. Hate can be a negative byproduct of culture. Hate is accumulative. Hate is a reaction.
We don’t choose hate, hate happens. The opposite of hate is tolerance. To not have hate is to be tolerant but not just with others but with ourselves and things we associate with. Being tolerant doesn’t mean giving approval or engaging with the things and people we “hate”, it means turning down the level of hate by making the effort to dilute its negative effects. Hate has a surface value sometimes of momentary strength which can seem to be positive, but the emotion is so high level that its purpose can be lost or misunderstood which again, being misunderstood is one of the definitions of hate.